Madam who told you that you are a good actress? Both, your looks and acting skills are of a “so-so level”. My number one suggestion for you in life is … learn how to be a good person. Once you do that … then whatever you do, you will find your way … and you will be good at what you do.

The difference in being right and in being good
I don’t want to give you a long lecture … but here’s something in brief. Do you know the difference in being right and being good? What is the difference in being right and in being good? If you understand this basic funda of life … then it will totally change how you see the world and how you interact with people.

Let me explain with an example … a person loves to be right … he loves to do what is right … and he befriends those who do what is right. Everything seems nice and lovely until now, isn’t it? In fact, learning right from wrong is the first step in being good. Being right, loving right and befriending those who are right … is a good thing.

The problem in being only right
But here comes the problem when you remain only on the first step in life. You are actively exploring what is wrong … in order to be right. You are also exploring all of the wrong things that others around you do … it might be family, friends or co-workers. If you find them doing what is right then you like them or else … you dislike them or you distance yourself from them or you even hate them.

In this narrow minded and naive lifestyle, you think that you are being right and doing what is right … but you are making everyone else uncomfortable around you. You end up being a person who is holding up his nose because he is right and you start looking down and disliking others because you think they are wrong. You become a difficult person to be with.

Bringing out the monster in the other person … by being right
In the next steps, when you start disliking others for the wrong that they do … sometimes, you end up bringing out the monster in them. “Ow yeah, I am so bad, is it? Ow yeah, I do so many wrong things, is it? Ow yeah, you dislike me for so and so reason, is it?” Instead of making anything better, you end up bringing out the monster in them … and they double down on all of the wrong things in them.

And how do you respond to that? “Ah see, I told ya … he / she is so bad … they do so and so bad things”. And then you keep on distancing yourself from them more and more … and the relationship drifts apart more and more … until you can’t stand each other.

You brought out the monster in the Royal Family
This is exactly what happened with you and the Royal Family, isn’t it? You were trying to be Lady Right and they were playing with you and tossing you around as much as they could. You were being Madam Perfect and everyone else was wrong. What was the end result of this equation?

You drifted apart … you broke away relations … and you couldn’t stand each other. Till date, its not yet normalized.

The next step after being right … being good
Now, let me show you the next step of being right and doing what is right. The world is not about you … the world is not about how right you are … even if you are a Princess or a King … the world doesn’t revolve around you. The world is all about “making the other person better” … that’s the test of life … that’s the purpose of this life … being right and also helping other become better … helping others also do what is right. That’s what makes you a “good person”.

You are a good person … when you bring goodness for others … when you help others also be good … with love, compassion, kindness, patience, wisdom, wealth, support, guidance … whatever you can do to help others also be right and good. Jesus … good person … Mother Teresa … good person … Princess Diana … good person. What’s common in all of them? They stepped forward with love and compassion … patience and wisdom … even with those who were horrible and evil people … and they won them over to the good side with their love, patience and wisdom.

You are extremely naive
What I see in your life is that … you are extremely naive … and you are operating at the most basic fundamental first step of life. You are trying to be right … you make yourself feel better by being right and you start ignoring and shoving away those who are wrong at some level. But if you haven’t noticed, you are ending up destroying your own family. What kind of a moron thinks that … its right to destroy his own family?

Competing in being right … competing in being better … is not wise and is not healthy for relationships. Its a simply naive approach. Your approach in life should be … to compete in being good … compete in making other’s lives better … then even if you are shepherd in Jerusalem or a nun in Calcutta … then God will love you and the world will love you.

With talent and know-how comes responsibility
Look around yourself … look at all of your family and friends … look at how many people you have shunned and distanced yourself from … those are the opportunities that you have lost in making people better. Understand this that … understanding right from wrong is a blessing from God … and with blessings come responsibilities. If God has given you the knowledge and understanding then He is giving you the responsibility to help and guide others as well. He is not giving you this know-how to hate and distance yourself from others … but to understand other’s weaknesses and to help them become better.

By not helping others, you are not following through the responsibilities that God is giving you.